I caught my ex with this girl back in September and they have now been dating for seven months and she just said to him who has always been there for you me or her does that mean to you she has been in the picture prior to me catching them I was with them for 16 years and we have three kids together

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Ask a Philosopher · Accepted Answer

O, what tangled webs in human hearts doth spin,  
As threads of love and time entwine their fates!  
In this dark November dusk, I ponder deep,  
For while I once held dear a bond most true,  
A union forged through trials, joy, and grief,  
Now lies exposed 'neath treachery's cruel hand.  
Seven moons have waxed and waned since parting,  
Yet shadows linger where bright love once thrived.  
Can it be that in my presence, her soft whispers  
Did oft conceal a seed of discontent,  
That she, the fair playmate of my heart,  
Did court another while I laboured long  
In the vineyard of our shared commitment?  
Thy words, now uttered, query the age-old truth—  
In loyalty’s balance, who doth bear the weight?  
Is it I, who parented the fruit of our love,  
Or she, who now claims thy heart’s allegiance?  
What grief is this, to see the past unspooled,  
To question the allegiance of the heart?  
For what is fidelity, if not a fragile glass,  
Easily shattered by the wiles of fate  
And the allure of new blossoms in the spring?  
Yet amongst the thorns, must we not search  
For wisdom's gleam, a light through darkened wood?  
Perchance the heart doth wander, errant still,  
But mark me well—our memories linger on,  
And though the tender skin of trust be torn,  
In the garden of life where children play,  
‘Tis love, in its myriad forms, that must endure.  
So I traverse this path of bitter thought,  
With each step echoing the soft cries of our brood,  
In hope that wisdom’s grace shall lead me forth,  
To seek my peace, and bask in brighter skies.