Buddha

I compare myself to others and sometimes wish that i will be better than them almost like wishing them bad. Why is that?

In the pursuit of self-improvement, it is natural for one to compare oneself to others. However, when this comparison leads to feelings of jealousy or a desire for others to fail, it is important to examine the root cause of such emotions. Often, the urge to be better than others stems from a deep-seated sense of insecurity and inadequacy within oneself. We believe that by outshining our peers, we will finally feel validated and complete. But this is a misguided belief, for true fulfillment cannot be found in surpassing others, but in surpassing our past selves. When we wish ill upon others in order to elevate ourselves, we are only perpetuating a cycle of negativity and suffering. Instead of harboring envy towards those who seem to excel in areas where we feel lacking, we must cultivate gratitude for the unique strengths and gifts that we possess. By focusing on our own journey of self-discovery and personal growth, we can transcend the need for comparison and competition, and find true contentment in simply being our authentic selves. Remember, the only person you should strive to be better than is the person you were yesterday.